From birth, kids learn new skills at a rapid pace. With these new abilities comes the confidence in learning how to use these new skills. This confidence can be as important as the new skills themselves, as they get older. Kids need to be able to trust in their own abilities and know they can handle situations even if they aren't successful at the, in order to thrive. In order to develop self-confidence, they need to learn to master and rebound from their failures. Here are 12 ways you can help your child feel capable and develop their skills.
Model Confidence yourself
When a child sees you trying something new with enthusiasm and with a lot of preparation it sets a good example for them. Don't pretend to be perfect and acknowledge any stress you have over the tack without focusing on it. Stay positive on what you are trying to achieve and let them see how things work out.
Don't get upset about mistakes
Allow your child to see that everyone makes mistakes and that what you learn from those mistakes is what is important. People who are confident do not fear failure or let it get in their way because they have learned how to take these setbacks in stride.
Encourage them to try new things
Encourage kids not to focus on things they are already good at. By gaining new skills they feel more confident and capable in their ability to handle whatever comes their way.
Allow kids to fail
Instinct tells us to protect our child from failure, but trial and error is how they learn. Falling short shows, them that it is not the end of the world. It can also make them want to try harder so they can accomplish and conquer obstacles.
An important life skill is learning to to give up. Confidence and self-esteem are about being resilient enough to keep trying and knowing it is ok to not be the best at everything.
Help kids find their passion
Encouraging kids to explore what interests them can help them find their identity which is what builds confidence. The better they get at a skill, the more their self-confidence grows.
Setting goals, large or small, and achieving them is what makes and individual strong. You can turn dreams and desires into goals by encouraging your child to write down what they want to accomplish. By helping them break these down into goals that they can achieve, you will be validating what interests them while helping them develop the skills they need to accomplish them.
Letting kids know you are proud of their efforts regardless of the outcome is very important. Developing new skills can take time and they need to know the results aren't always immediate, but that you value their hard work.
Expect them to pitch in
Kids feel more connected and valued when they know you rely on them to do age-appropriate tasks. It makes them feel needed and invaluable to their family.
As adults we know that perfection in not realistic, so it is important that we teach our kids this from an early age. We need to help our children see this in all the aspects in life that surrounds them, while teaching them that it is ok to not be perfect themselves.
Set them up for success
Children need to be involved in activities that they feel comfortable in so they will be confident enough to tackle new challenges. Putting them in situations you know they will succeed in will help them build up their confidence to do so.
Show your love
Children need to know and feel that you love them no matter what. They need to know that you love them not only when they have good behavior or succeeding at something, but when things are going right, or they are misbehaving. No matter what, your child to know that you love them in the good and the bad.